Mum Abi battles through tough times thanks to her children - and writing
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A Torbay mum wrote a triology of books as she recovered from postnatal depression based on her personal experiences of heartbreak and holiday romance.
During her worst days, Abi Yardimci, 42, felt nobody would miss her if she was gone and thanks her sons Baran, now 12, and Azad, now nine, for keeping her going during those difficult times.
As well as focusing on caring for her boys, Abi returned to a lifelong love of writing.
She said: “The trilogy was written during my first years of motherhood and my postnatal depression episodes.
“Although it was a challenge, my writing was incredibly helpful in my recovery.”
Although her books are not about postnatal depression, Abi, whose husband is Turkish, feels strongly it needs to be talked about more.
In the few months after her baby was born, Abi also discovered her Dad had cancer and they began a ‘gruelling and expensive’ visa application.
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She said: “I was under a lot of stress as I navigated being a first-time mum.
“We moved to the Scottish Highlands because I had family there willing to give my husband a job.”
The couple quickly realised life in the Highlands would bring more culture clashes and financial stresses.
One day, as Abi attended a Well Woman appointment at her GP surgery, a doctor asked her if she felt healthy.
Abi said: “In that moment I realised there wasn’t one single part of me that felt healthy and I broke down into tears.
“She suggested I could be suffering from postnatal depression.”
Thanks to that appointment, Abi got help included counselling and CBT therapy.
However, she suffered postnatal depression a second time.
At that time, her dad was dying and her mother-in-law was very poorly.
This time, Abi knew and went straight to the doctors for a referral for more counselling.
She also went on a mindfulness course and fell in love with the practice, becoming a mindfulness coach herself.
Abi is proud her own challenges have inspired her to help others, both as an author and a peer support worker for other new mums for the charity, Bluebell Care.